Thursday, February 11, 2016

Happy Self Love Day.

So, Valentine's day is definitely around the corner. And I'm still single.

This year, I'm changing my outlook. In past years, I've resented Valentines Day, dreading the whole hype surrounding it. The roses, chocolates, flowers, hearts and balloons everywhere. Loved up looking couples looking like they are floating on cloud 9. Honestly, I used to hate it and was semi jealous of all my friends with their partners, and all the blissfully happy looking couples. But as I grow older, I realised I don't hate Valentine's Day, but I do dislike the fuss made around it. Without sounding like some crazy, twisted, bitter, cynical; Valentine's Day, whilst the meaning behind it is beautiful, the actual day has become another overly commercialised holiday. Which has placed too much emphasis on over the top typical romantic gestures, and some people have lost the idea of what true romance is. In recent years, a lot of people have taken Valentine's Day as an opportunity to begin to be overly critical and harshly judge ourselves unfairly. It has created such a pressure on both girls and guys, particularly for those in my generation. Growing up, sometimes it felt you had dropped the F-bomb in church, if you didn't have a Valentines. As I girl I felt like I was ugly or undateable: Why did no-one want to be with me on what is supposed to be the most romantic day of the year? And I can't even imagine the pressure some of you guys must have felt; trying to plan something special, buying gifts and even having to build up the courage to ask a someone out (if you didn't already have a partner OFC). 

But it's not all doom and gloom. Despite being single, I'm actually looking forward to Valentine's Day. It's a day of love, and who doesn't love, love. Every year, I always say I want a Valentine's, because in 22 years of living I've never had one. Until I realised, I've had one every year all along: myself. This year I'm going to be my own valentine's. Valentine's is all about love and there's no greater love than self love. I guess it's true what they say, you can't expect others to love you until you love yourself. Self love and the process of cultivating it, is so important. The ability to respect, honor and be compassionate to yourself is a beautiful and powerful thing, and can change your life as well as your relationship with yourself as well as others.

"To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance" - Oscar Wilde

And that's what I'm learning to do everyday and what better day to start than the most romantic day of the year, and I'm really looking forward to it, pampering myself, spoiling myself, booked myself a yoga class and will be ending my evening with a trip to the cinema with one of my best friends Rhi!

So, for those of you alike, single on Valentines Day, don't be sad. Embrace it. Treat yourself. You don't need someone else to validate or prove how much love you deserve. You deserve an infinite amount of love, everyday not just on Valentine's Day. Don't forget there's always next year! And for those of you with a Valentine's, I hope you have an amazing loved filled day but the take home message still applies. Self love is key and the most important relationship you'll ever have! :)

So, in the words of Justin Beiber "You should go and love yourself" Just Smile & Happy Valentine's/Self Love Day guys ♡♡

Ak x